Erotic Technique For Anxious Lovers
A really good way to begin a lovemaking session is with a hug.
GROUND TOGETHER WITH HUGS
It takes a while to “land” in your body after the stresses of the day.
Wrap yourselves in each other’s arms, entwine your legs and let her nestle her head in your neck.
Start breathing slowly and deeply and aligning your breath.
Try to quiet your mind from distractions of the outside world and begin to become aware of your body.
As frustrations, upsets or tensions arise, let them dissipate.
Bring your awareness first to the room, then to your partner and finally to your own body.
Begin to feel your heartbeat. Allow yourself to feel held, cared for, and nurtured by your lover.
Sometimes it can take 10-15 minutes of slowing down to begin to feel desire for each other.
Allow yourself that time just to “drop in” together.
As you quiet, look in each other’s eyes and really see your lover.
Take this moment to thank your lover for being intimate with you.
Think about what kind of lovemaking you’re in the mood for.
What is it that would feel the best for you today?
Would you enjoy starting with a full body massage?
Is there a kink in your neck or your toe that is going to prevent you from being fully surrendered to your passion?
Work it out.
Would you like a sensual massage with warm coconut oil?
Would you like your genitals stroked and engorged?
How about a slow, easy kissing session to get your pucker primed for oral sex?
Every day is a different situation. Make sure you check in with yourself and let your lover know where you are emotionally and physically.
And give yourselves time to warm up to each other.
Sometimes in the rush to “have sex,” we forget that it’s a nurturing, healing, rebooting of our nervous systems.
Give yourself permission to receive as well as give.
Meeting each other first in a loving embrace — pulsating your bodies together — will ground you back to the earth.
Let go of the cares of the world and become completely present with each other.
And then you can shoot for the stars.
Here is my recipe for The Best Hug In The World. I suggest you try this lying down.
The BEST HUG In The World <=== Easy and Fun
“I’ve always regretted that he takes my relaxation as a cue to end the hug. You ladies talk about polarity between masculine and feminine — holding hard is masculine; I’d like to be able to relax into letting go of my arms’ grip while still being strongly held by him. That would be delicious. It is rare.” — Jeanne
I Love You To The Moon And Back.